My goal here is to explore the realities and complexities of the life of men. I don't want to act like the woman putting the man down, and I don't want to be the whining man crying, 'I need help. What are you going to do for me? The genders should be asking, 'What are we, men and women, going to do about it?' Let's first recognize the situations; then form plans for what can and should be.