Stephen Grosz Quotes

Being present, whether with children, with friends, or even with oneself, is hard work. But isn't this attentiveness -- the feeling that someone is trying to think about us -- something we want more than praise?

Closure is just as delusive-it is the false hope that we can deaden our living grief.

When I'm in a couple, I feel I'm disappearing, dying - losing my mind.

Being loved is the problem, because love is a demand - when you're loved, someone wants more of you.

Pyschoanalysts are fond of pointing out that the past is alive in the present. But the future is alive in the present too. The future is not some place we're going to, but an idea in our mind now. It is something we're creating, that in turn creates us. The future is a fantasy that shapes our present.

As he spoke, I had the mental image of a small boy switching on the nightlight, not because he wants to be able to find his parents during the night, but because he fears his parents will forget him - lose him - in the dark.

The bigger the front, the bigger the back.

we all try to silence painful emotions. but when we succeed in feeling nothing we lose the only means we have of knowing what hurts us and why.