Jennifer Senior Quotes

But the truth is, there's little even the most organized people can do to prepare themselves for having children. They can buy all the books, observe friends and relations, review their own memories of childhood. But the distance between those proxy experiences and the real thing, ultimately, can be measured in light-years.

The author says this socially respectable option NOT to parent has actually made parenthood more stressful. The knowledge that parents have chosen that role allows for unrealistic buildup of expectations and unavoidable second-guessing.

Couples with children may argue more, the author suggests, because children are a reminder of just how crucial our choices are.

Children live life as a controlled experiment.

The author describes the critic within us as adults as "the selves who live too much in their heads rather than their bodies, who are burdened with too much knowledge about how the world works rather than excited about how it could work or should, who are afraid of being judged and not being loved. Most adults do not live in a world of forgiveness and unconditional love, unless, that is, they have small children.

Your children are going through life with their eyes closed, so YOU'RE the one who has to steer.

The phrase "having it all" has little to do with having what we want.

The 20th century, the author observes, fostered the idea that fulfillment is possible on Earth.