Shannon L. Alder Quotes

The true measure of a best friend is where they are when you “make” the biggest decision of your life, not where they were during the decision process.

Blessed is a mother that would give up part of her soul for her children's happiness.

The most spiritual people I’ve ever met were not “givers” they were communicators. You don’t give people crumbs. You give them the whole piece of bread when that is what they are asking for, in order to be healed. Christ was never about hiding behind a Facebook page, an email, a prayer circle, a bible, or a church. He was about talking, listening and healing-- face to face. He walked among sinners and ate with them. He devoted his time to people that were brokenhearted, difficult to like and fake as the religious beliefs they clung to. So, why is it that so many people profess to believe in Christ, yet they have forgotten what real love is----communicating?

When someone you loved finds no flattery in the gift you gave them then you must ask yourself, "What was worth loving?

The solution is so obvious, but for so many of us we would travel a hundred miles out of the way to avoid it, gather a thousand opinions on the way and take a pit stop in fear to check our map before we proceed through hell. Heaven was always a direct flight with no layovers.

Time is too swift for those who fear, too long for those who wait, too short for those who finally find peace, but for those who love, time is eternal. For nothing is ever lost that God wants you to find.

Sometimes, we are unable to break free because we are held captive by divine assignment because in our problem God has given us a unique purpose.

You will know it is love when the need can't be met by yourself or God.

Forever echoed in their favor. "Never say never", she said softly. For you see, Forever had never heard of Never.

To love someone with all of your heart requires reaching them where they are with the only words they can understand.

In every experience we get to choose either love or fear as a response. Your character is formed by the percentages of those choices, which then forms your life.

You will never get what you want if you believe that you are not worthy of having it. God doesn't create us to be defeated.

If you have to make a daily choice to be in a relationship then you are married to the past, not the person.

Writing isn’t necessarily a gift it is a passion. You can write a one page masterpiece to 99 pages of crap. What keeps you coming back is that Zen moment when you enlightened your own self with a few cleverly arranged words and saved yourself a $200 trip to the shrink, by simply buying a #2 pencil.

When you invite people to share in your miracle, you create future allies during rough weather.

Happiness is when you fight for souls that barely hang on.

The true call of liberation of women is not in taking off their clothes, but taking off their prejudices.

Forgiveness is not an invitation to become a doormat for other people's hypocrisy.

When you find love you will know. It will be the one thing worth waiting for.

Self worth is not measured by what you have, no matter how full your life is. Rather, it comes from what you are, how authentically you're really living your life, and how much you are willing to give to something other than your own insecurities.

Sometimes you have to look past a person’s mistakes to see God’s presence.

God is up to something, but you will never know unless you figure out the difference between who is the messenger carrying your future and who is the person holding you back.

And when one song stops playing write the one that will save your life.

If you have to convince someone to stay with you then they have already left.

Empowered Women 101: Everyone wants to be a princess, but you weren't the first princess in his life. They scrubbed his floors, washed his workout clothes, picked up his dirty socks and dealt with his issues. Always remember that history leaves a pattern of what to expect. A real woman knows that the bible is a motivator, but the real instruction manual is observing the last woman's struggle.

Empowered Women 101: A confident woman doesn't have to talk a man into loving her. He either loves her completely, not enough or not at all. Regardless, she doesn't settle for less than she deserves.

So many people think that they are not gifted because they don’t have an obvious talent that people can recognize because it doesn’t fall under the creative arts category—writing, dancing, music, acting, art or singing. Sadly, they let their real talents go undeveloped, while they chase after fame. I am grateful for the people with obscure unremarked talents because they make our lives easier---inventors, organizers, planners, peacemakers, communicators, activists, scientists, and so forth. However, there is one gift that trumps all other talents—being an excellent parent. If you can successfully raise a child in this day in age to have integrity then you have left a legacy that future generations will benefit from.

True love is not a question. It is an answer that you never have to spend a lifetime figuring out.

Introspective souls are often tormented by their passionate visions. This is because visionaries see what shall be and wake up to what is. However, if you couldn't see a glimpse of the city lights while stranded in the forest, how would you ever know to walk in that direction? Sometimes, your vision can't be put into action, until you gather the learning experiences, along your journey first.

Praying for the people that hurt you may not change them, but it will change you.

A daughter of God knows that insecurity is not an excuse for doing evil to others, nor will God rest until caring for everyone is a lesson you learn.

If you’re treating people poorly then you're not emulating God’s love. God always resides with the broken hearted.

Inside of you is your love, not beside you. She is just there to remind you of where you placed her heart.

It is a wonderful thing to be liked by a stranger, but without respect it is pointless. It is like pulling the pedals off a rose and throwing the stem at the person you like. It’s creepy, but had good intentions that suddenly experienced some strange form of verticillium wilt, during the climate change of their mood.

One of the most important things you can do on this earth is to let people know they are not alone.

The only man worth having in your life is one that would never let you walk away.

If you want to be an honorable man, then be what you pretend to be.

The only thing sadder than unrequited love is being in a relationship where there is unrequited love.

The problem isn’t that I think so highly of myself. It is just that you think so little of yourself. Live life BIG, BOLD and OUT LOUD!

Peace is the way, not the destination.

You're only a victim to the degree of what your perception allows.

Set the standards for what you expect of people and the correct ones will join your cause.

God built lighthouses to see people through storms. Then he built storms to remind people to find lighthouses.

If you can’t dream big, you will never see the vivid colors of probability over the darkness of possibility.

Hope has a way of casting shadows on the truth.

Judgement is always based on experience and sometimes you will battle a person's history first, before commonsense will ever win the war.

The only people you have to look out for in life are the people that don't care about anything or anyone. These are the people that end up teaching your children.

It is not your talents that make you great, but your decisions.

Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, "What else could this mean?

Distance and time might keep people apart, but the heart and mind will always stay connected by memories, miracles and the power of two unlikely souls that were destined to meet.

The only way through pain is love.

Maybe, it is not the thorn on the rose that we should see, but the beauty of the gesture.

Be honest with who you are, what you want and how you want to be treated. Boundaries only scare off the people that were not meant to be in your life.

If you were born with the ability to change someone’s perspective or emotions, never waste that gift. It is one of the most powerful gifts God can give—the ability to influence.

Marriage creates one world for your child. For that alone, two old friends can try to see a peaceful world through the eyes of their angels.

Live is not about constantly fighting to keep someone in your life. It is about constantly fighting for a better life together.

The problem will never be diversity, the challenging of tradition or the one person that questions the way life should be. The person that shows the world that this is wrong, there is a perspective you didn't consider, this is worth fighting for and being different is a blessing, will always be the solution for change.

God is going to send you someone that will rescue you. Then one day you will rescue them in return and together your story will rescue others. He has always been a God of rescues and a maker of warriors for his grace. You only need to believe that you are part of something greater than you know.

You can make heaven out of hell, or hell out of heaven. The choice is yours.

Choosing a mate is not a matter of can they do the job, rather will they. A partner of "potential" doesn't make for a happy marriage. Their actions have to be in line with your needs.